My fiancee and I have budgeted our wedding to pay for the 24 people in our lives who we couldn't get married without. You know, the people that if even one of them was missing then the day wouldn't be the same. We are unable to pay for anybody else without cutting costs to dodgy levels.We wanted the big wedding but couldn't afford it. How will I word the invitations to ask the others to fork out the $135 a head to come. Our parents aren't an option for cash...
How to word my wedding invite to ask them to pay for themselves for the reception...?
I think you answered your own question: "we wanted the big wedding but couldn't afford it." In other words, you CANNOT ask your guests to pay their own way, which means if you can't afford it, you can't have it. Why don't you have an intimate wedding with your 24 people, and then later send out wedding announcements with invitations to an informal reception - with inexpensive hors d'oevres and drinks (or do a no-hostbar). You can even do that in your backyard, or a friends home and have everything be homemade, to keep costs down.
I feel for you - I know it can be disappointing to not be able to have the wedding of your dreams, but at least this way you can sort of get the best of both worlds, not upset all your friends and family by asking them to shell out $135, AND focus on what's important - having the marriage of your dreams.
Reply:u dont need to do that..be nicer!!!
Reply:is this price per person?its too much my friend.I thè°‹nk nobody can not afford this.if you dont have much money for this wedding why you organize such a big deal with too much money??
peace..
Reply:Invite everyone to the wedding (the ceremony). If your invitation only includes the ceremony on it, you can send a separate card to those whom you want to be at the reception. But it's pretty tacky to have any guest pay for his/herself at the reception.
Reply:Don't word it on an invitation. It's not appropriate, technically you shouldn't even be expecting gifts at all. I would be insulted if I was invited to a wedding and I found out I wasn't important enough to be one of the people who got their meal covered.
I suggest you spread out the budget of the 24 people and do a appetizer/cocktail reception that you and your family and fiancee can afford. Or limit it entirely to a intimate dinner at a restaurant.
I'm sorry, I wish there was a better solution for you to get everything you want.
Reply:That is rediculous!!!. If you want just about everyone close to you to think you are a buffoon than ask them to pay $135 to come to your wedding.
I don't even know what to else say... I would be appalled. And I suppose you want a gift too!!!
Just have everyone over for a barbeque after the wedding, or do your 24 people thing and stop at that. Don't you dare ask people to pay to come to your wedding.
Reply:i really understand where you are coming from BUT i do think it is really tacky to ask that. i wanted everyone at my wedding that was important to me. SO, i had it at a small restaurant and it was like $14 a person. that way i could have everyone i wanted. you dont need to have it at a place thats $135. you can cut cost right there and have all the people you want. $135 times 24 quests is $3240. you can find a less expensive place and have more than 24 people for that kind of money. do a little research.
Reply:Sorry, but you can't. If you can't afford to have a big wedding, then you don't have one, unless you're willing to go into debt for it, which I wouldn't advise. It would honestly be the height of rudeness and tackiness to invite someone to your wedding, and then say "oh yeah, you have to pay for it." It just plain isn't done.
If you can't afford a meal, just have a cake and punch reception, and then invite more people. You can cut reception costs 2 ways, either invite fewer people, or serve less food.
Reply:Don't have food there. I wouldn't even go if one of my friends suggested to me that I would have to pay $135 to attend. That is ridiculous.
Why should they have to pay for your BIG day. Cut back and just have cake. It is about everyone getting together, not about the expense.
Reply:asking your guest to pay $135 to come is a lot of money!! I am sure there are other reception places that could have been more reasonably priced (say around 65-85 dollars). I don't know too many people that would pay that AND give you a wedding gift.
Reply:If you cannot afford to pay for them, then you do not invite them! You have to be mature and make a choice--do you want the BIG wedding with just your 24 or a simple cocktail reception with everyone. Frankly, since you are demonstrating such selfishness and greediness, one wonders if you are ready for marriage at all!
Reply:OK you so can't do that!!!!!! It's the WORST idea ever!!!
If you can't afford it, then you don't get to have it, it's that simple. Have a different kind a reception, just cake or something. Whatever you can afford
Reply:then dont invite anyone else!!!!
that is a lot of money, personally i couldn't come to a wedding if it cost that much money. and you probably wouldn't get any gifts either, and people would just get mad.
Reply:no dont do that Just serve cake and punch dear and have class that way
Reply:You should have two sets if invitations......one for the wedding ceremony only.....send that one to everyone you want at the wedding. The reception can be a "private party", and only those you can afford to pay for should be invited. It's just plain rude to invite someone to a reception and ask them to pay that much. That's more than a lot of people can afford to spend on a gift.
Reply:This is tough, but I think you will need to either keep your reception to those 24 people - or you need to make your reception just cocktails and cake (and instead of going to a restaurant for those, have the reception in a back yard and go to a warehouse superstore and buy cases of wine to cut costs again). It is extremely rude to ask your guests to pay for themselves. I would either wait to have my wedding until I can afford to feed everyone, cut my reception list to just those 24 people, pull out a loan, or do a cake and wine reception.
Good luck!
Reply:Thats gonna be tough, $135? If the more "unimportant" people have to come up with $135....do you think they would be willing to pay that much for a wedding of 2 people that THEY themselves might not find the most important? Do you get what I'm saying? If they arent extremely important to you, how do you know that you're important enough to them to pay $135? Thats quite alot of money...I wouldnt be expecting many wedding gifts...
Reply:That is sooooo Dodgy of you! Instead of hurting peoples feelings elope instead. It's cheaper and more fun! Go to Las Vegas like I did!
Reply:That really is horrible that you would do that! My husband and I just went to a wedding last weekend and had to pay for our drinks! We thought that was really rude. First off we traveled there and spent money on a hotel and gas. We had no money left over to drink! Let alone get our breakfest the next morning. That is wrong that you would really want to INVITE people to pay. If you can not afford to treat them like a GUEST then don't INVITE them at all. I would never go to a wedding that asked me to pay for myself. You don't invite people to your house for dinner and expect them to bring money to pay for it, do you?
Reply:Since you can't afford the price, don't invite them. It's too much to ask the guests to pay for their own meal at that cost, a gift, their transportation, hotels, clothing, etc... that's a lot of money for them to spend on your day. You should call and explain to each person that while you would love to have them, you just can't afford it. They will understand.
OR
Have a less expensive wedding and invite more people. Maybe offer several menu selection on the reply card. Have the two or three choices listed with prices and a line for selection. That way the people know that they are expected to pay for their own meal, but it shouldn't be $135 per person. Try a less expensive menu, like chicken, fish, and pork over prime rib. Also include "Cash Bar" so that the guests know that you will not be providing alcohol. If anything else is included in the $135, then try cutting it out. Favors and decorations can be done without when you are on a tight budget. Try a party supply store for inexpensive bulk wedding favors, and silk flowers instead of fresh flowers. There are a million ways to cut costs without going cheap and/or tacky.
EDIT:
OK, so it's $102.50 US. That's still too much to ask the guest to fork over to attend. You could always say on the card that in lieu of gifts, you are asking for help with wedding expenses. Then list tthe amount required to attend.
I still think it's tacky and a very bad idea. Not only will you offend all those people, they probably won't come, and don't expect them to be friendly after they see it. Asking for money is the height of vulgar.
Reply:Do not charge people to attend your wedding. There is no way (thank goodness) to make such a request of people. If you can only invite 24, do that. if you must have it larger, then feed everyone less (or just a few trays of passed appetizers), have the wedding in a back yard or a public park. There are lots of ways to make a less expensive or smaller wedding work....but there is no way on earth of charging people to attend your wedding without offending them forever.
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Saturday, October 24, 2009
Did the East German Communists invite former Nazi Otto Strasser to join the government?
I read somewhere on the internet that former Nazi Party member Otto Strasser was invited to join the communist SED in East Germany sometime after WWII but he declined the offer. Is this true? Is there some reference somewhere?
Did the East German Communists invite former Nazi Otto Strasser to join the government?
It certainly makes sense. Why would a facist want to be a communist?
Did the East German Communists invite former Nazi Otto Strasser to join the government?
It certainly makes sense. Why would a facist want to be a communist?
How do I get an invite to pledge the graduate chapter of aka?
Do you have to be invited by a graduate AKA or can it be just any AKA?
How do I get an invite to pledge the graduate chapter of aka?
you have to get an invite, make sure to attend all the activities, I am also in the process of pledging the beautiful Alpha Kappa Alpha. Attend all meetings so that way they know you r int rested. I first pledge in 1999, I was on line but I had to get off line because I was pregnant. I loved learning how to step, even though I know all of the chants and steps. I can not do it no matter what. So Now I am getting back, looking to join for spring 2008. And remember discretion is the key must not let your Friends know U r Pledging
Reply:it depends
How do I get an invite to pledge the graduate chapter of aka?
you have to get an invite, make sure to attend all the activities, I am also in the process of pledging the beautiful Alpha Kappa Alpha. Attend all meetings so that way they know you r int rested. I first pledge in 1999, I was on line but I had to get off line because I was pregnant. I loved learning how to step, even though I know all of the chants and steps. I can not do it no matter what. So Now I am getting back, looking to join for spring 2008. And remember discretion is the key must not let your Friends know U r Pledging
Reply:it depends
Why does 360 say page not found and i cant get an invite for 360 or create a 360 page?
when i try to go on 360 even on friends it says page not found, i cant even create one and i had one.
Why does 360 say page not found and i cant get an invite for 360 or create a 360 page?
If you don't have an activated 360 space, you can't receive an invite. Also, invitations on many 360 spaces (including my own) aren't working anyway right now. See http://blog.360.yahoo.com/blog-4D4zxsg6f... for more information on 360 glitches.
As far as accessing a 360 space (old or new), FIRST, consider all the possibilities listed below:
- If you've never set up the 360 space ON THIS ACCOUNT, then you'll need to activate it first. Log out of all Yahoo services. Go to http://360.yahoo.com and click on the Yellow "Get Started" button to go through the process. If it says your Yahoo ID is already in use, make sure you are completely logged out and that your browser's cache and cookies have been emptied.
- Check your firewalls %26amp; other security settings to make sure they aren't blocking the page or associated IP addresses for 360. You can disable the firewall for a second and check to see if you can access 360 then, although I hate recommending this.
- If you've had any change in your ISP service (like AT%26amp;T Yahoo or Verizon) that was connected to a 360 account, then the change can cause you to lose access. That means you were using the e-mail address that the ISP gave you instead of a Yahoo ID that you created (and controlled). Check with those sources to find out the deal. Bottom line: It's best that you use a Yahoo ID that you created rather than one provided through an ISP.
- If you've violated Yahoo Terms of Service (http://info.yahoo.com/legal/us/yahoo/uto... ) or 360 Community Guidelines (http://help.yahoo.com/l/us/yahoo/360/gui... ), then you should check your Yahoo! Mail for a notice. Violations can cause 360 space deletion.
You should be able to do the following, when you've activated your 360:
- LOG OUT of all Yahoo services
- Go to http://360.yahoo.com
- Click the teeny tiny "Sign-in" link on the upper left of the page. After signing in, the page refreshes and you should click on the teeny tiny "Yahoo 360 Home" link on the upper right of the page to get into the 360 space.
NOTE: Make sure that you are using the Yahoo ID that was used to create your 360 space. The usual methods of accessing 360 are no longer working - i.e. via the Yahoo Toolbar and Y!Messenger (with the exception of the Y!360 plug in on version 8.1).
**************************************...
Now, if you've determined that the above possibilities don''t apply to you or don't work, then you only have five choices:
1) Try setting up or logging into your 360 space on another computer on a different network - library, your friend's computer...whatever.
2) Contact CUSTOMER CARE by clicking the button at the bottom of this page: http://help.yahoo.com/l/us/yahoo/edit/re... , and ask them why the 360 part of your Yahoo account is inaccessible, then wait for their response. Although, this is customer service, so you may need to contact them a few times to get a response. When dealing with customer service, sometimes it's necessary to be persistent. You can also call 1-866-562-7219, 1-408-349-1572, 1-408-349-3300
Hours: 8a-5p M-F (Pacific)
3) Start a new 360 space by creating a new Yahoo account. Log out of all Yahoo services. Go to any Yahoo sign-in page and clicking "Sign Up" on the lower right side (http://mail.yahoo.com , is preferred). Then, once you've created a new account, go to http://360.yahoo.com and start creating your new 360 space from there. Click the BIG YELLOW "Get Started" BUTTON on the far right section of that page!
4) Wait to see if Y!360 transitioning to another social networking platform in the second half of 2008 will help your situation. Read more about that here: http://blog.360.yahoo.com/product_360 .
5) Give up on Yahoo! 360 and use another social networking service.
Good luck!
Reply:Thanks for voting! Report Abuse
Why does 360 say page not found and i cant get an invite for 360 or create a 360 page?
If you don't have an activated 360 space, you can't receive an invite. Also, invitations on many 360 spaces (including my own) aren't working anyway right now. See http://blog.360.yahoo.com/blog-4D4zxsg6f... for more information on 360 glitches.
As far as accessing a 360 space (old or new), FIRST, consider all the possibilities listed below:
- If you've never set up the 360 space ON THIS ACCOUNT, then you'll need to activate it first. Log out of all Yahoo services. Go to http://360.yahoo.com and click on the Yellow "Get Started" button to go through the process. If it says your Yahoo ID is already in use, make sure you are completely logged out and that your browser's cache and cookies have been emptied.
- Check your firewalls %26amp; other security settings to make sure they aren't blocking the page or associated IP addresses for 360. You can disable the firewall for a second and check to see if you can access 360 then, although I hate recommending this.
- If you've had any change in your ISP service (like AT%26amp;T Yahoo or Verizon) that was connected to a 360 account, then the change can cause you to lose access. That means you were using the e-mail address that the ISP gave you instead of a Yahoo ID that you created (and controlled). Check with those sources to find out the deal. Bottom line: It's best that you use a Yahoo ID that you created rather than one provided through an ISP.
- If you've violated Yahoo Terms of Service (http://info.yahoo.com/legal/us/yahoo/uto... ) or 360 Community Guidelines (http://help.yahoo.com/l/us/yahoo/360/gui... ), then you should check your Yahoo! Mail for a notice. Violations can cause 360 space deletion.
You should be able to do the following, when you've activated your 360:
- LOG OUT of all Yahoo services
- Go to http://360.yahoo.com
- Click the teeny tiny "Sign-in" link on the upper left of the page. After signing in, the page refreshes and you should click on the teeny tiny "Yahoo 360 Home" link on the upper right of the page to get into the 360 space.
NOTE: Make sure that you are using the Yahoo ID that was used to create your 360 space. The usual methods of accessing 360 are no longer working - i.e. via the Yahoo Toolbar and Y!Messenger (with the exception of the Y!360 plug in on version 8.1).
**************************************...
Now, if you've determined that the above possibilities don''t apply to you or don't work, then you only have five choices:
1) Try setting up or logging into your 360 space on another computer on a different network - library, your friend's computer...whatever.
2) Contact CUSTOMER CARE by clicking the button at the bottom of this page: http://help.yahoo.com/l/us/yahoo/edit/re... , and ask them why the 360 part of your Yahoo account is inaccessible, then wait for their response. Although, this is customer service, so you may need to contact them a few times to get a response. When dealing with customer service, sometimes it's necessary to be persistent. You can also call 1-866-562-7219, 1-408-349-1572, 1-408-349-3300
Hours: 8a-5p M-F (Pacific)
3) Start a new 360 space by creating a new Yahoo account. Log out of all Yahoo services. Go to any Yahoo sign-in page and clicking "Sign Up" on the lower right side (http://mail.yahoo.com , is preferred). Then, once you've created a new account, go to http://360.yahoo.com and start creating your new 360 space from there. Click the BIG YELLOW "Get Started" BUTTON on the far right section of that page!
4) Wait to see if Y!360 transitioning to another social networking platform in the second half of 2008 will help your situation. Read more about that here: http://blog.360.yahoo.com/product_360 .
5) Give up on Yahoo! 360 and use another social networking service.
Good luck!
Reply:Thanks for voting! Report Abuse
Does anyone have a Demonoid invite code laying around?
Not that it's extremely cliche to ask for one on here, but it's definitely worth a shot. I'd love you forever :) haha
Does anyone have a Demonoid invite code laying around?
You missed 3 days of open registration that ended on the 9th Nov. along with another day that ended on the 1st Dec.
Open Registration days can be any day of the week, are not necessarily every month and can last hours or days.
I'd advise you to check http://demonoid.com EVERY day and eventually you will get there.
Please try and keep your share ratio above 1.1 when you get in.
Reply:i have an account there and i hope i can help you somehow. write me at nutepuicumine@yahoo.com
first name
Does anyone have a Demonoid invite code laying around?
You missed 3 days of open registration that ended on the 9th Nov. along with another day that ended on the 1st Dec.
Open Registration days can be any day of the week, are not necessarily every month and can last hours or days.
I'd advise you to check http://demonoid.com EVERY day and eventually you will get there.
Please try and keep your share ratio above 1.1 when you get in.
Reply:i have an account there and i hope i can help you somehow. write me at nutepuicumine@yahoo.com
first name
Share FLICKR pictures with an invite link but no email?
I want to share my flickr pictures (that are private) with someone, but I want to do it with a LINK as opposed to an invitation that goes through email. Is there a way?
Share FLICKR pictures with an invite link but no email?
Yes, just click on 'all sizes' on the photo you want to share... a link is provided for each size so you can copy and paste it into whatever...
The link will only open the picture and not your whole account.
The above answer is ok, but the link in the web browser will actually connect anyone who clicks it to your entire Flickr album...
Sometimes you just want the individual photo link to share.
Reply:Open flickr click on a photo from your photo stream then right click the http link from the address bar and copy (top of page) then paste the link to your invite to see your photo stream.
Share FLICKR pictures with an invite link but no email?
Yes, just click on 'all sizes' on the photo you want to share... a link is provided for each size so you can copy and paste it into whatever...
The link will only open the picture and not your whole account.
The above answer is ok, but the link in the web browser will actually connect anyone who clicks it to your entire Flickr album...
Sometimes you just want the individual photo link to share.
Reply:Open flickr click on a photo from your photo stream then right click the http link from the address bar and copy (top of page) then paste the link to your invite to see your photo stream.
Do you think we should invite Osama Bin laden to the white house for a pork chops dinner?
Why not, he contributed $50,000 to the Bush Campaign in 2000
Do you think we should invite Osama Bin laden to the white house for a pork chops dinner?
Hell Ya ... I'll provide the pork ;)
Reply:He's got a better chance of getting invited than you have, He's rich, he's helped make a lot of money for the presidents family and friends, and gotten him re-elected. What have you done for your pork chop?
Reply:We should warp his carcass in bacon after we nail him.
Reply:I think so but it would probably not work, although, some candidate may get wind of your idea and use it on the campaign trail.
The first person that comes to mind that is such a progressive thinker that he might actually do it is Barack O'bama. Maybe others will follow suit.
Reply:I'm sure he would not attend, as Bush probably bores the heck out of him too.
Reply:Im sure he would like it considering hes not a Muslim.
But of course your smart enough to know that right? :)
Do you think we should invite Osama Bin laden to the white house for a pork chops dinner?
Hell Ya ... I'll provide the pork ;)
Reply:He's got a better chance of getting invited than you have, He's rich, he's helped make a lot of money for the presidents family and friends, and gotten him re-elected. What have you done for your pork chop?
Reply:We should warp his carcass in bacon after we nail him.
Reply:I think so but it would probably not work, although, some candidate may get wind of your idea and use it on the campaign trail.
The first person that comes to mind that is such a progressive thinker that he might actually do it is Barack O'bama. Maybe others will follow suit.
Reply:I'm sure he would not attend, as Bush probably bores the heck out of him too.
Reply:Im sure he would like it considering hes not a Muslim.
But of course your smart enough to know that right? :)
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