The problem is, if I invite ALL children, there will be about 12-15 kids, half of them 8 months and younger and the other half toddlers up to 12 years old. I don't want children running around at my wedding. I have always wanted an adult reception so everyone can have fun and not worry about watching their kids or feeding them bottles. I live in Ohio and I know that people will have to travel for my wedding and they will want to bring their kids...but I really don't want a baby crying in the middle of my vows, which would be totally possible...and, again, I want people to have fun and not worry.
I am having a destination wedding on the beach in South Carolina. Is it necessary to invite children?
Try to solve the problem this way: Invite the children, but provide a baby-sitter at the wedding. That way, your friends and family can bring the kids along and you can have your child-free wedding as well. If you don't invite the kids, a lot of people are probably going to choose to stay home rather than leaving their babies with a sitter for an extended period of time.
Reply:So who do you think would care for these children while their parents are in South Carolina? You're asking alot for someone to attend a destination wedding %26amp; you need to be sensitive to the fact that some of your guests have small children. I am all for an adults-only reception when the wedding is local, but in this case, I think you're going to get a number of declined invitations....
Reply:Contact a nanny service in Charleston before you go and arrange for a set day and time for them to provide sitting. Provide this to your guests as a gift to allow them to have some adult time.
http://yellowpages.charleston.com/Nannie...
Or, look on craigslist.org
Reply:you're agist!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Reply:It is not unreasonable at all not to want children interrupting your ceremony and during speeches etc. It is also not reasonable to expect people to travel and not bring their children. It will be best to invite the parents and inform them that they are welcome to bring their children, but that they will be accommodated seperately at a hired bungalo or hotel room nearby with one or two qualified child minders. In this way the parents will know that their children are nearby, looked after, kept busy and you can enjoy a child free wedding. A win win for everyone.
If you need some more advice on planning your beach wedding try http://www.beachwedding-guide.com
Good luck!
Reply:YOu do not have to invite children. My friend just got married and put a HUGE disclaimer in the invitation, NO children. it was an adult affair and ti was lovely.
it's your day, girl. you can do whateva you want!
Reply:It's fine. Most weddings I go to there are no children. 12 and over seems appropriate.
Saturday, October 24, 2009
Party planning.... if i would like 100 guests to attend a party, how many people must i invite on average?
is there a ratio formula for figuring out the number of guest who will actually show up at a party they were invited to?
Party planning.... if i would like 100 guests to attend a party, how many people must i invite on average?
well there isn't a certain ratio to go by;;but if you want 100 people to show up, you should at least invite 200..i would say that would be a good number..
hope you have a great party =]
Reply:never was good at math dunno about a ratio but i would say if you want 100 ppl to show up and knowing that everyone might not show if you just invited 100 i'd say invite 1 to 2 extra ppl for every person you invite, but have enough food for those extra ppl in case everyone you invite shows up
Party planning.... if i would like 100 guests to attend a party, how many people must i invite on average?
well there isn't a certain ratio to go by;;but if you want 100 people to show up, you should at least invite 200..i would say that would be a good number..
hope you have a great party =]
Reply:never was good at math dunno about a ratio but i would say if you want 100 ppl to show up and knowing that everyone might not show if you just invited 100 i'd say invite 1 to 2 extra ppl for every person you invite, but have enough food for those extra ppl in case everyone you invite shows up
Should I invite future in-laws to my bridal shower?
My future step-mother-in-law is throwing me a bridal shower 3 weeks before my own mother is throwing me one. Should I still invite my mother-in-law and her family to this shower?
Also, my fianc茅's biological mother will be in attendance at the one my mother is throwing and my mother-in-law and my step-mother-in-law aren't on the best of terms. Any thoughts or advice?
Should I invite future in-laws to my bridal shower?
You shouldn't have to invite anyone to your
bridal shower. You shouldn't even know
about it. It is something your friends are
supposed to get together and surprise
you with.
Tell whomever is giving you the shower
who you would like to attend and give
the address's. In-laws are fine.
Reply:I had similar problems with my wedding. I decided to invite everyone and let them sort it out. I only had one bridal shower though. I think it is appropriate to invite your future MIL to your mother's shower. However since there is bad blood between her and the biological mom, I would call her a week before the shower and let her know that the bio mom will be there. I also think you should say something to the effect that since she is going to the trouble of throwing you a shower you don't want her to feel obligated to attend another shower. That way she has a classy out.
Reply:If you will see your step mother-in-law often I would maybe say something just to prevent her from feeling excluded. things like that always come up in the future. I'd give her the option if I were you. It's safer to invite both, tell them who is going to be there %26amp; that they are expected to behave well at the events should they choose to come.
Reply:I would be honest about the whole situation. I'd tell your future step momma in law that your mom is having a bridal shower and your future momma in law will be there. Tell her she is welcome to come. Also ask your future hubby what he thinks.
Reply:Yes, all future inlaws should be invited to any bridal shower that involves your own parents. HOWEVER, it is not usual for said inlaws to decide not to attend - just to pre-warn you.
Reply:Keep the one your mom is throwing as exclusive for your family and friends.
I would also invite the stepMIL out for dinner as a thanks for throwing you a shower.
Your stepMIL really doesn't need to go to both showers.
Reply:I would just keep them separate and if either mother in law asks, just tell them that you wanted nice parties without them getting uncomfortable with each other.
Reply:sure! why not! they should be civil for you. its a special time in your life, so they shouldn't throw down or anything. congrats!
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Also, my fianc茅's biological mother will be in attendance at the one my mother is throwing and my mother-in-law and my step-mother-in-law aren't on the best of terms. Any thoughts or advice?
Should I invite future in-laws to my bridal shower?
You shouldn't have to invite anyone to your
bridal shower. You shouldn't even know
about it. It is something your friends are
supposed to get together and surprise
you with.
Tell whomever is giving you the shower
who you would like to attend and give
the address's. In-laws are fine.
Reply:I had similar problems with my wedding. I decided to invite everyone and let them sort it out. I only had one bridal shower though. I think it is appropriate to invite your future MIL to your mother's shower. However since there is bad blood between her and the biological mom, I would call her a week before the shower and let her know that the bio mom will be there. I also think you should say something to the effect that since she is going to the trouble of throwing you a shower you don't want her to feel obligated to attend another shower. That way she has a classy out.
Reply:If you will see your step mother-in-law often I would maybe say something just to prevent her from feeling excluded. things like that always come up in the future. I'd give her the option if I were you. It's safer to invite both, tell them who is going to be there %26amp; that they are expected to behave well at the events should they choose to come.
Reply:I would be honest about the whole situation. I'd tell your future step momma in law that your mom is having a bridal shower and your future momma in law will be there. Tell her she is welcome to come. Also ask your future hubby what he thinks.
Reply:Yes, all future inlaws should be invited to any bridal shower that involves your own parents. HOWEVER, it is not usual for said inlaws to decide not to attend - just to pre-warn you.
Reply:Keep the one your mom is throwing as exclusive for your family and friends.
I would also invite the stepMIL out for dinner as a thanks for throwing you a shower.
Your stepMIL really doesn't need to go to both showers.
Reply:I would just keep them separate and if either mother in law asks, just tell them that you wanted nice parties without them getting uncomfortable with each other.
Reply:sure! why not! they should be civil for you. its a special time in your life, so they shouldn't throw down or anything. congrats!
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Can I invite a few people to the ceremony and more to the reception?
and if I do that, how do I get invitations??? Thanks
Can I invite a few people to the ceremony and more to the reception?
It would be tacky if you have the reception and wedding in the same place. (because people will show up early for the reception and see whats going on.)
If you have the wedding and reception in two different places, then it would be exceptable. This is common.
Reply:I have received many invitations to the receptions since the bride and groom want to keep the ceremony private. That is very common. First, get the invitations for the wedding. Then, figure out how many you will need for the reception and then add the wedding amount to that. Then, send out the invitations for both. RSVP ONLY if you are doing a sit down supper or have an open bar. You do not need RSVP if the reception is for finger foods in the middle of the afternoon at some hall and there is no open bar. On the reception invitations, just talk about the reception. Saying that "bride" and "groom" cordually invites you to attend the reception of the wedding at Maybell's Finery on Saturday, February 30, 1090 at 2:30 PM. Word could get around from the bridesmaids that the chapel is so small, the guest list had to be for family only for the small wedding, but wanted friends and other family to share the party with them.
Reply:I agree with the poster above- if you're going to invite some people to the reception and not the ceremony then don't have them at the same place. It'd just be awkward for guests that turn up early!
It can be hard deciding who gets invited to the ceremony without offending anyone. It's probably best to stick with very close family and your best friends- otherwise Aunt Mary will get annoyed that Aunt Betty was invited to the ceremony and she wasn't. Or if one co-worker is invited and not another. Most people are understanding if you just want to have immediate family at the ceremony and then others at the reception.
Just give separate invitations- those you want at both, include both on the invite. Those you want only at the reception, only have the reception listed on the invite (not the ceremony). On these invites you could say something like...
Jack and Jill request the pleasure of your company at their wedding reception...
or
Jack and Jill request the pleasure of your company at the celebration of their marriage..
Reply:I personally ould not invite anyone to the reception who has not ben invited to the ceremony.
If I was only invited to a reception I would feel like I was good enough to party with them but not good enough to share that special moment with them when they exchange vows and become husband and wife. Which afterall is the most important part of the day.
I have heard of people being invited to the ceremony and not the reception. People understand that receptions are expensive and not everyone can go and often just want to see the ceremony but then that also comes down to the relationship you have with that person and how close they are to the couple.
Reply:It's not so uncommon. I have been to several receptions where the ceremony was private due to religious reasons (for instance, Mormon weddings in the temple may only be attended by church members that have a particular status within the church) or because the wedding venue is so small that only a very few guests may attend.
Reception-only invitations look basically like wedding invitations, but are worded differently. Something like:
Mary Moore
and
James Johnson
will be married in a private ceremony on June 4, 2008
They invite you to join them afterward for a reception
celebrating their marriage
Seven o'clock in the evening
Rolling Hills Country Club
Springfield, Colorado
Reply:send a marriage announcement out to all of the guests...the ones you intend on having at the ceremony send them an invitation with the reception info also in the envelope. For anyone else just do the announcement and put the reception info in that envelope. The announcements are usually used after the wedding to inform collegues, distant family, or old friends of the wedding but they can be used this way too.
Reply:It is not rude to invite a few people to your ceremony and everyone and their dog to your party. You can look on any etiquitte website and it will tell you it is acceptable. What I am doing is printing the main invite for the reception and inclosing a seperate wedding info sheet (with map, as it is at our house in the woods) for the close family and friends that are invited to the ceremony.
You do what you want and have a great wedding!
Reply:I think if presented the right way it's okay.
But I have to disagree with the poster who said R.s.v.p.s are only for sit-downs or open bars. Even for finger foods you're going to have to know how much food to provide, and buying a whole bunch of extra that you might not need just someone said not to send R.s.v.p.s for hor d'oeuvres receptions...that's so not fair to you and your fiancee. Why should a having a finger-food reception mean you are expected to risk wasting your money?
Best of luck with all of it.
Reply:Yes, that is what most people do anyways. You get invites for the cer+reception and then you get invites for the reception only.
Reply:It's very rude to do that. You invite the same people to both - so they witness the vows at the ceremony, then celebrate with you at the reception.
Reply:I think that will cause problems with your guests. Two different invites go out will be confusing. Some will wonder why they weren't asked to the ceremony. I wouldn't do it.
Reply:You would send out seperate invites to those who are only invited to the reception. Making sure that you keep these seperate and have a seperate list for each! Good luck
Reply:Sounds tacky.
Can I invite a few people to the ceremony and more to the reception?
It would be tacky if you have the reception and wedding in the same place. (because people will show up early for the reception and see whats going on.)
If you have the wedding and reception in two different places, then it would be exceptable. This is common.
Reply:I have received many invitations to the receptions since the bride and groom want to keep the ceremony private. That is very common. First, get the invitations for the wedding. Then, figure out how many you will need for the reception and then add the wedding amount to that. Then, send out the invitations for both. RSVP ONLY if you are doing a sit down supper or have an open bar. You do not need RSVP if the reception is for finger foods in the middle of the afternoon at some hall and there is no open bar. On the reception invitations, just talk about the reception. Saying that "bride" and "groom" cordually invites you to attend the reception of the wedding at Maybell's Finery on Saturday, February 30, 1090 at 2:30 PM. Word could get around from the bridesmaids that the chapel is so small, the guest list had to be for family only for the small wedding, but wanted friends and other family to share the party with them.
Reply:I agree with the poster above- if you're going to invite some people to the reception and not the ceremony then don't have them at the same place. It'd just be awkward for guests that turn up early!
It can be hard deciding who gets invited to the ceremony without offending anyone. It's probably best to stick with very close family and your best friends- otherwise Aunt Mary will get annoyed that Aunt Betty was invited to the ceremony and she wasn't. Or if one co-worker is invited and not another. Most people are understanding if you just want to have immediate family at the ceremony and then others at the reception.
Just give separate invitations- those you want at both, include both on the invite. Those you want only at the reception, only have the reception listed on the invite (not the ceremony). On these invites you could say something like...
Jack and Jill request the pleasure of your company at their wedding reception...
or
Jack and Jill request the pleasure of your company at the celebration of their marriage..
Reply:I personally ould not invite anyone to the reception who has not ben invited to the ceremony.
If I was only invited to a reception I would feel like I was good enough to party with them but not good enough to share that special moment with them when they exchange vows and become husband and wife. Which afterall is the most important part of the day.
I have heard of people being invited to the ceremony and not the reception. People understand that receptions are expensive and not everyone can go and often just want to see the ceremony but then that also comes down to the relationship you have with that person and how close they are to the couple.
Reply:It's not so uncommon. I have been to several receptions where the ceremony was private due to religious reasons (for instance, Mormon weddings in the temple may only be attended by church members that have a particular status within the church) or because the wedding venue is so small that only a very few guests may attend.
Reception-only invitations look basically like wedding invitations, but are worded differently. Something like:
Mary Moore
and
James Johnson
will be married in a private ceremony on June 4, 2008
They invite you to join them afterward for a reception
celebrating their marriage
Seven o'clock in the evening
Rolling Hills Country Club
Springfield, Colorado
Reply:send a marriage announcement out to all of the guests...the ones you intend on having at the ceremony send them an invitation with the reception info also in the envelope. For anyone else just do the announcement and put the reception info in that envelope. The announcements are usually used after the wedding to inform collegues, distant family, or old friends of the wedding but they can be used this way too.
Reply:It is not rude to invite a few people to your ceremony and everyone and their dog to your party. You can look on any etiquitte website and it will tell you it is acceptable. What I am doing is printing the main invite for the reception and inclosing a seperate wedding info sheet (with map, as it is at our house in the woods) for the close family and friends that are invited to the ceremony.
You do what you want and have a great wedding!
Reply:I think if presented the right way it's okay.
But I have to disagree with the poster who said R.s.v.p.s are only for sit-downs or open bars. Even for finger foods you're going to have to know how much food to provide, and buying a whole bunch of extra that you might not need just someone said not to send R.s.v.p.s for hor d'oeuvres receptions...that's so not fair to you and your fiancee. Why should a having a finger-food reception mean you are expected to risk wasting your money?
Best of luck with all of it.
Reply:Yes, that is what most people do anyways. You get invites for the cer+reception and then you get invites for the reception only.
Reply:It's very rude to do that. You invite the same people to both - so they witness the vows at the ceremony, then celebrate with you at the reception.
Reply:I think that will cause problems with your guests. Two different invites go out will be confusing. Some will wonder why they weren't asked to the ceremony. I wouldn't do it.
Reply:You would send out seperate invites to those who are only invited to the reception. Making sure that you keep these seperate and have a seperate list for each! Good luck
Reply:Sounds tacky.
Why do you think the European did not invite Africans to the Berlin Conference ? What be the effect of this?
exclusion upon later African leaders.
Why do you think the European did not invite Africans to the Berlin Conference ? What be the effect of this?
they didn't invite they africans because they though they were superior to them and the africans could do nothing about it. The africans became very upset when their tribal boundaries were replaced with new European boundaries and many civil wars broke out and are still happening today
Reply:haha becuase the europeans didn't give a **** about what the africans wanted. europe was invading their country and colonizing it for themselves. they weren't going to try and negotiate with africans b/c the africans would oppose the whole thing.
Why do you think the European did not invite Africans to the Berlin Conference ? What be the effect of this?
they didn't invite they africans because they though they were superior to them and the africans could do nothing about it. The africans became very upset when their tribal boundaries were replaced with new European boundaries and many civil wars broke out and are still happening today
Reply:haha becuase the europeans didn't give a **** about what the africans wanted. europe was invading their country and colonizing it for themselves. they weren't going to try and negotiate with africans b/c the africans would oppose the whole thing.
Shall i invite her a lunch or to leave her alone?
before two days she asked me to avoid her if not she told me she will avoid me. what do you advise me b/c i'm intending to invite her a lunch but fear she will not respond.even if i know her irreversible decision i hesitate to be silent,b/c i don't want to loose her.
Shall i invite her a lunch or to leave her alone?
Maybe you didn't hear what she said the first time.
Reply:Its worth asking.
Reply:If she wants you to avoid each other, then you've already lost her. Don't ask her to lunch; she already told you to avoid her so asking her would be harassment.
Reply:your a stalker mate leave her alone or you will see yourself in cells being gangbanged by the big boys
Reply:try it!
Reply:Leave her alone. You've already lost her. Don't stalk.
Shall i invite her a lunch or to leave her alone?
Maybe you didn't hear what she said the first time.
Reply:Its worth asking.
Reply:If she wants you to avoid each other, then you've already lost her. Don't ask her to lunch; she already told you to avoid her so asking her would be harassment.
Reply:your a stalker mate leave her alone or you will see yourself in cells being gangbanged by the big boys
Reply:try it!
Reply:Leave her alone. You've already lost her. Don't stalk.
What is a Certificate of Accommodation, and where do I get it? I want to invite a friend from Algeria to visit
I imagine it is like an invitation letter. I needed one to go to China (I am in the USA). So I am guessing it is the same in reverse.
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