How do I forgive a friend who didn't invite me?

I find it so hard to forgive a friend who had hung out with me for so much before getting married. His wife doesn't like me because we'd argue before she started dating my closest friend.





Now after the wedding my friend is apologizing to me but expects me to act normal with him again.





How and why should I act like I'm not hurt?





I am a straigth man, btw, I'm just not afraid to express my feelings so don't mess around me. please...
How do I forgive a friend who didn't invite me?
His wife is childish, and your friend could have spoken up more. Maybe even had the two of you meet and maybe work it out before she just decided that you were not aloud to come. Just tell him you think it was shady of him not to invite you just because his wife and you got into it once. Just tell him how you feel.


Also are you sure that you were excluded because of his wife, or money issues? Because sometimes you have to cut people on your list because of budget concerns and sorry to say the cut usually comes on the grooms side.
Reply:Do you mean he didn't invite you to the wedding? That's a hard one. Were other friends invited? Could it have been only family? Were things between you and the bride so bad that having you there would have spoiled her wedding day? It's impossible to know the dynamics of the situtation without a lot more detail, and even then, it's going to come down to one thing: Are your hurt feelings more important to you than your "boys only" friendship? Eventually, you'll find someone yourself and the balance of relationships will change again.
Reply:Think about how terrible he must feel because (most likely) his wife to be said he could not invite you. Your friend was in between a rock and a hard spot. He had no choice. It's probably not good way to start off a marriage by putting a "friend" before your "spouse". You have a right to feel hurt but try and put your self in his position.





My husband's best friend was left with the unpleasant task of un-inviting us to a party because of his wife. I was hurt but not by him. He had no choice. It did not even phase my husband. He assured his friend no explanation was needed. It was his friend when he invited us and still his friend after he un-invited us.
Reply:Just be forgiving. If you like him in general and care to have him, tell yourself it's not a big tragedy not to attend his wedding. Of course it's hurting your feeling. But try to be forgiving especially that he apologized.





Express your feelings to him that you were really hurt and the good friends don't do that. But like you said it happened due to his wife not liking you. Remember a wife is a first priority to him now regardless. He is your best friend, yes, but he will do what his wife desires. And I myself would not like to be put in the position he was in - between the best friend and wife. It's a very sensitive situation. Put yourself in his shoes and forgive him.





Our all life is about forgiveness.
Reply:Ah, women.


They make us crazy.


So he married a b__ch who hates you, and is not afraid to enforce her will upon him.


Just wish him luck and happiness in his marriage, if she is restricting his friends from attending his marriage then it is likely to be an abusive relationship.


When he gets tired of being yanked around on her chain it will end, but don't expect to hear much from him until then.
Reply:If he can't even make sure you get an invite to the marriage despite the woman he is marrying, then chances are you probably won't see much of this guy again anyway. His wife is going to control the show. Tell him to enjoy his new life and be prepared to go your separate ways.
Reply:You may have to give up and move on from this friendship, this is now a couple and if both aren't on board about you, you may be done. They've created a new life and if she isn't into you, he may not be allowed to hang with you anymore. Sorry, he made a lifetime commitment to her. That changes everything.
Reply:Just be straight with him. I'm surprised that he would try to keep the friendship after not inviting you to such a huge occasion. Or rather that he would ignore such a huge faux pas on his part without an explanation or show some regret. Is it possible he was never the friend you thought he was? Good friends don't cave.
Reply:just tell him how it hurt you...and if hes a good friend he will stay tha tway
Reply:accept his apology and move on. life is too short for grudges. but i woud tell him that it did bother you
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