Invite out-of-state step-family members to a bridal shower knowing they will not be able to attend?

I have been married for a year. My step-daughter is to be married May 2007. My family is in Texas. We are in Ohio.
Invite out-of-state step-family members to a bridal shower knowing they will not be able to attend?
You should poll the family and find out how they would feel if they were or were not invited. If they would be insulted for not being invited, invite all and let them know that you would understand if they are unable to attend the shower. We did that with my showers. We have family who lived far enough away that they would need to travel in for the shower. We invited them and some sent their regrets and a present (or they chipped in on one gift). I was not hurt when they didn't come and they were not hurt for not being invited.
Reply:It's always nice to invite them, even if they can't attend.





Story: we just went through my shower. I wrote out a list of people to invite, one of which was a member of my bridal party who lives in Colorado. She couldn't come but sent a gift.





I FORGOT TO SEND ONE TO MY FUTURE GRANDMOTHER-IN-LAW! She really laid on the guilt trip too. I had never felt more guilty in my life!
Reply:I would to avoid any hurt feelings.
Reply:I would just to show the polite gesture
Reply:Yes, invite them. It's a nice gesture, even if they can't come.
Reply:why not invite them. u never know they just might show up and if they don't show up people like to know that people are thinking about them
Reply:It's always nice to send the invite their way, even though you know they will not be able to make it. It's a great way to prevent hard feelings and someone getting hurt.
Reply:i would have to say yes send the ivatation, even though you know they can't come. It give's them a keepsake and prevent's hurt feeling's. I am the sister of the groom, and i live in what they call upstate Ny, they live in NYC, i didn't get an invite to the bridal shower and my feeling's are very hurt, but i wouldn't have been able to make it. It would have been the thought that counted
Reply:yes invite them, send the invitation, it is the thought that counts....show them that you have thought of them. I learned this the hard way. I had out of town guests that I knew would not be able to attend (and they knew they couldn't attend) and I did not invite them until my mother pointed out my error. So I had to hastily scratch up some to invites. It is a small price to pay to keep your family appeased.
Reply:tell here able to make it
Reply:It would be kind of an awkward thing to receive in the mail from so far away.





I would just invite people within like a 2 hour driving radius, to a shower.
Reply:Definitely send the invite...its the polite and thoughtful thing to do even if they won't be able to make it.
Reply:Yes. Invite as many women as possible (those that you will also invite to wedding). They will send a gift most likely if they cant come. Dont assume they cant or wont come. If you assume they wont come they may be upset later that they were not invited.
Reply:You should invite your immediate family. Mom, Dad, Brothers and Sisters. They can decide not to attend. But atleast it shows you thought of them.
Reply:Invite them anyway out of ettiqutte if they come they come if not they don't
Reply:It's a nice gesture to send invites even though they probably can't come.





Plus, you might get a gift in the mail....
Reply:even though you know they will probbally not come it just shows some curtisty to invite them...who knows maybe they will come good luck
Reply:I'm having a destination wedding and invited all of my stepdads family,even though I'm pretty sure none of them will come. There are a couple I wanted to invite, and some that I wouldn't even recognize on the street-however, I think it's common courtesy to invite EVERYONE in the family.
Reply:It's up to her. Regardless of distance, she may have enough to worry about with her Mom and Step-Mom in the same location at the same time (I would!)... never mind her Step-Mom's family to boot.





Generally "family" status doesn't extend as easily to the step's family (so not necessary to invite based on family status). However if they get on well, and she would / does want them there, she should invite them regardless so it doesn't seem like a snub.





IMHO.


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