If you saw a homeless person on the street regularly would you invite them for christmas dinner?

i keep wondering wether to ask him or not





but the one thing holding me back is how do i ask him to leave at the end of the day





what do you think





thanks for your answers








xxx vici
If you saw a homeless person on the street regularly would you invite them for christmas dinner?
You do no such thing. There is a reason for people being out on the streets and you do not want to get involved - God knows what may happen. What you are suggesting is actually quite cruel. You ask him in to your home, are you buying him a present, raising his hopes of getting a bed for the night, will he get violent when asked to leave. It is not fair to be charitable on the one hand and then kick him out. He will come back for sure and make your life one long misery. Please talk to somebody as they will agree with me I think. It is madness.


If you are just doing this to satisfy some kind of guilt, wrap up some food in a box and give it to him and walk away for good. Being kind is one thing, but raising a desperate persons hopes and inviting him in then only worrying about how to get rid of him, is not wise. If you are so bothered, you have to find out how best to get help for him, but what you are proposing will only make it worse. Don't be so naive. Do not get involved - you have no idea of what may happen.
Reply:Not if youre alone.





Get an opinion from someone who can actually assess this situation , in person. This is a difficult to respond to "sight unseen"





There are many reasons why people are homeless--some dangerous, some not.


Depends on what kind of judge of character you are also
Reply:no..................and where do you stop?.....how about Easter or bank holidays..what if he wants his pals to come along...all you will be doing is asking for a whole lot of trouble
Reply:No way. I have a 14 year old daughter at home so I'm not bringing home any stray who may or may not be a psychopath.
Reply:dont do it.because i work with homelees people.and they will take a lot of getting ready of once they are in your home.there must be a homeless shelter near were you live that he can go to.
Reply:Personally I wouldnt - But that is a really nice, charitable, christatian thing to do - Which I suppose is what christmas is supposed to be about.





Its your call - I don't know. I wouldnt though.
Reply:No, that could be dangerous!
Reply:I would not.In our house it has always been an intensely Family occasion followed by some time with friends. Inviting someone from outside our intimate circle would be embarrassing for them.





Well done for having the thought, though. As my children are getting older I am considering volunteering for a charity that gives homeless people a Christmas meal. I think that it's the conviviality that counts rather than the food.





A street-person is for life, not just for Christmas.
Reply:Vici, for the last 2 weeks my friend has been helping a homeless lad who was waiting for a place in the opposite newly built hostel, he has been feeding him, giving him some work in his shop, giving him a little money and friendship and the lad admitted to having a drink problem, he was also sleeping rough outside, this 22 year old lad worked his way to getting a bed inside of the shop for the night last Thursday, he was served tea and biscuits in the morning part and as my friend went to the loo he heard the front door bang and when he came out he saw that his 拢500 laptop had mysteriously vanished...the police were called and found the lads bag which was full of needles...





soooo there are a few lessons here, don't invite him, people are homeless for a reason, drink, drugs, violence,...
Reply:The plight of the homeless is not often one we'd like to contemplate.These are the street roamers,people living a life most of us cant ever imagine.Some with psychiatic problems,some alcoholics,ect...all have been spurned by their families,friends,society ect. . . No, due to circumstances im unable to invite a homeless person as a guest for a elaborate meal at my residence. . . im most willing to offer my assistance to any homeless shelter on Christmas day with preparing and serving meals. . . Bon appetit to Xmas meal at the homeless shelter. . . Hey make it a special event,operation Xmas warmth. . . be motivated and contribute your assistance !! perhaps !?
Reply:no , you dont know who they are , they could have somthing wrong with them and then wht would happen
Reply:No, I would not. Who knows what kind of mental disorders this person has. I wouldn't take that kind of chance.
Reply:No, most wouldn't be grateful for a meal , probably prefer a fiver deal.
Reply:We normally see street people here in our country. Asking them over to our home would prove to me more disadvantageous. For one, we never know if our safty would be compromised. Also, tnis could give them a suggestion to be wrongly dependent on us and to go to our home for every need.





Things we normally do to show care to them:





1. We stock food and items in our car. We give these items away everytime we come across sreetpeople.





2. When dining out or during drive thru, we order extra food to give to those outside. At times, we order for them and let them sit near us.








hope this helps :)
Reply:Its a wonderful guesture, yes, but I know of people in my area that are homeless and I would not advise inviting a stranger into your home. What if the person chooses not to leave? Or starts harrassing you regularly after? You could end up with this person continuously harrassing you to support them and make a bad situation out of this.





Why not just give him a sandwich or something as you walk past and wish him a merry christmas?





Please think logically, 9/10 there is a BAD reason why a person is homeless. Mental problems, damage to the last property they resided at etc. I'm not saying that all homeless people are "bad" but in my experience, a lot of them are best being avoided.


In Queensland, mental patients are released and a lot of them end up on the streets.





Please be careful.
Reply:best to play it safe and not ask....
Reply:No
Reply:in the good old days yes now not so sure as they all drink to much and the same with drugs its not so safe as it used to be
Reply:No. You do not know enough about the person to just invite him over like other friends or family. Sometimes homeless people carry diseases and other unsanitary things on them. You will also anger other people and probably lose some friends to boot. Also, some "homeless" people are not actually "homeless", they are "actors" that prey on your good intentions and make their "living" from it. Some of them are scammers, so be very careful. FYI.
Reply:nah keep out of it,or he will be back,and the next question u will be asking is--"how do iget rid of an unwanted tramp that keeps begging at my door,and now ive got all his plonky mates knocking at my door and my tvs gone,and oh god theres one in my bed in my hubands pyjamas!! help!
Reply:Yes...Of course...He may need some warmth from another human being right now.
Reply:If you have a rapport with him then go for it. It's not that difficult to ask someone what they are doing for Christmas - if he's free then ask him round but he might not leave - he might find your abode quite cosy. Only joking.
Reply:The world needs more people like you in it. That's a very nice thing to do.
Reply:No. No matterh how often you see him, he is still a stranger and you do not know his circumstances. His could be a tragic story but inviting someone into your home (especially on Christmas day) is a big thing.
Reply:What a lovely gesture. As for asking him to leave do it subtly, when the time comes maybe you could get round it by saying something along the lines of "I'm so glad you came, after ......... (I've tidyed up/ we've had coffee) I'll give you a lift.". That makes it clear when it's time to leave without it seeming like you're trying to get rid of him.


You have inspired me to do something good today, thanks :-)
Reply:that is wonderful, how charitable of you! at the end of the evening you could always offer him a ride to a local shelter.
Reply:it's a radical thing to do....i don't have that courage, but, i think there are 'safer' ways of doing it, like inviting them to places other than home.....it could well be the start of something big....





brgrds,
Reply:Many homeless people are very proud, and are only there because of a number of bad turns in their lives. Many would reject your offer out of fear of disrupting the day for you and your family. For me personally, it would be very hard to invite them into a home filled with happiness and "wealth" and then return them to their hole in the wall at the end of the day.





So as much as your goodwill is admirable, I would recommend taking him out for lunch the day or two before and leaving it at that. An envelope containing a Christmas card with some money would also be greatfully accepted.
Reply:I guess... but I'd have to make sure that I have plastic seat covers for him first.





Hygiene comes first! Think of the children!
Reply:Do him a Christmas dinner but make him eat it in the garage.
Reply:I would ask him for dinner. Just because he is homeless does not mean he wants to wear out his welcome.