Can I invite a few people to the ceremony and more to the reception?

and if I do that, how do I get invitations??? Thanks
Can I invite a few people to the ceremony and more to the reception?
It would be tacky if you have the reception and wedding in the same place. (because people will show up early for the reception and see whats going on.)





If you have the wedding and reception in two different places, then it would be exceptable. This is common.
Reply:I have received many invitations to the receptions since the bride and groom want to keep the ceremony private. That is very common. First, get the invitations for the wedding. Then, figure out how many you will need for the reception and then add the wedding amount to that. Then, send out the invitations for both. RSVP ONLY if you are doing a sit down supper or have an open bar. You do not need RSVP if the reception is for finger foods in the middle of the afternoon at some hall and there is no open bar. On the reception invitations, just talk about the reception. Saying that "bride" and "groom" cordually invites you to attend the reception of the wedding at Maybell's Finery on Saturday, February 30, 1090 at 2:30 PM. Word could get around from the bridesmaids that the chapel is so small, the guest list had to be for family only for the small wedding, but wanted friends and other family to share the party with them.
Reply:I agree with the poster above- if you're going to invite some people to the reception and not the ceremony then don't have them at the same place. It'd just be awkward for guests that turn up early!


It can be hard deciding who gets invited to the ceremony without offending anyone. It's probably best to stick with very close family and your best friends- otherwise Aunt Mary will get annoyed that Aunt Betty was invited to the ceremony and she wasn't. Or if one co-worker is invited and not another. Most people are understanding if you just want to have immediate family at the ceremony and then others at the reception.





Just give separate invitations- those you want at both, include both on the invite. Those you want only at the reception, only have the reception listed on the invite (not the ceremony). On these invites you could say something like...


Jack and Jill request the pleasure of your company at their wedding reception...


or


Jack and Jill request the pleasure of your company at the celebration of their marriage..
Reply:I personally ould not invite anyone to the reception who has not ben invited to the ceremony.


If I was only invited to a reception I would feel like I was good enough to party with them but not good enough to share that special moment with them when they exchange vows and become husband and wife. Which afterall is the most important part of the day.


I have heard of people being invited to the ceremony and not the reception. People understand that receptions are expensive and not everyone can go and often just want to see the ceremony but then that also comes down to the relationship you have with that person and how close they are to the couple.
Reply:It's not so uncommon. I have been to several receptions where the ceremony was private due to religious reasons (for instance, Mormon weddings in the temple may only be attended by church members that have a particular status within the church) or because the wedding venue is so small that only a very few guests may attend.





Reception-only invitations look basically like wedding invitations, but are worded differently. Something like:





Mary Moore


and


James Johnson


will be married in a private ceremony on June 4, 2008





They invite you to join them afterward for a reception


celebrating their marriage


Seven o'clock in the evening


Rolling Hills Country Club


Springfield, Colorado
Reply:send a marriage announcement out to all of the guests...the ones you intend on having at the ceremony send them an invitation with the reception info also in the envelope. For anyone else just do the announcement and put the reception info in that envelope. The announcements are usually used after the wedding to inform collegues, distant family, or old friends of the wedding but they can be used this way too.
Reply:It is not rude to invite a few people to your ceremony and everyone and their dog to your party. You can look on any etiquitte website and it will tell you it is acceptable. What I am doing is printing the main invite for the reception and inclosing a seperate wedding info sheet (with map, as it is at our house in the woods) for the close family and friends that are invited to the ceremony.





You do what you want and have a great wedding!
Reply:I think if presented the right way it's okay.





But I have to disagree with the poster who said R.s.v.p.s are only for sit-downs or open bars. Even for finger foods you're going to have to know how much food to provide, and buying a whole bunch of extra that you might not need just someone said not to send R.s.v.p.s for hor d'oeuvres receptions...that's so not fair to you and your fiancee. Why should a having a finger-food reception mean you are expected to risk wasting your money?





Best of luck with all of it.
Reply:Yes, that is what most people do anyways. You get invites for the cer+reception and then you get invites for the reception only.
Reply:It's very rude to do that. You invite the same people to both - so they witness the vows at the ceremony, then celebrate with you at the reception.
Reply:I think that will cause problems with your guests. Two different invites go out will be confusing. Some will wonder why they weren't asked to the ceremony. I wouldn't do it.
Reply:You would send out seperate invites to those who are only invited to the reception. Making sure that you keep these seperate and have a seperate list for each! Good luck
Reply:Sounds tacky.