Should I invite my mates girlfriend to my wedding or just him?

I have only met her twice and my fiance hasn't met her at all.
Should I invite my mates girlfriend to my wedding or just him?
It's not a case of meeting/not meeting her, it's a case of how many people you want.





It is standard these days to invite someone plus guest (especially if you know they've got an other half), but if you're trying to keep costs down, or have limited numbers due to venue space, you are well within your rights to not invite them (although it wouldn't be good if this was a singled out case).





Remember though: at the end of the day it's YOUR wedding and YOUR special day. If having her there is going to spoil it: don't invite her. But if you're not bothered, try not to spoil your guest's day!
Reply:how serious/long standing etc is the relationship? if they are engaged or have been seeing each other a long time then i would say yes else he might get offended. -- if not then I would say its probably alright to not invite her,,. however most weddings do say +1 and i've been to weddings where i didn't know anyone!!!





Best to discuss it with him -- if hes a good friend and you explain why your concerned, then he should understand... if not then he wont come and you've saved some money on place settings so bonus either way!!
Reply:if they are close you should invite both. it might cause them trouble if he comes and she not allowed it just would seem sneaky to her. UNLESS she is really wierd and gross or something then i wouldnt want her at my wedding. But as long as she is normal i say go for it.
Reply:Is this a long term relationship? I would if it was long term. If it is not, and its a fairly new relationship, if you have room go ahead and invite her.
Reply:You could you do or if you don't want to make the decision just put on his invite plus one or his name and guest
Reply:Most of the time when you invite a single person to a wedding the invitation says to that person and "guest"
Reply:Well if they are a couple long term then you should invite them as a couple. If they are only seeing each other short term them invite him + a friend and then it is up to him whether he brings her or not. I was once invited to a wedding without my boyfriend (we were only seeing each other a while) but i was invited on my own and was not very pleased. I did think my friend could have put + 1 and then I could have brought him if i wanted.
Reply:Invite him and a +1 so if he wants to bring her he can.
Reply:Unfortunately, yes. I wish we didn't have to invite significant others, especially if we barely know them, but I have learned the hard way that if I am inviting someone and they have a boyfriend/girlfriend that I have to invite both of them. You don't have to put the significant other's name on the invitation just address it to your friend and guest.
Reply:well i would if you are OK with her going then ask your mate if he wants her to go cause you dont mind but you though you would ask him first cus you dont want to make your mate feel as though she has to come by inviting her or you could make a special slip for him with his invitation saying +1 that way he can invite his girlfriend his he wants to without him feeling that he has to :) hope i helped
Reply:It depends if you're inviting people and expecting them to bring a +1, or if you're only inviting the people that you want to come. For example, if you're not sure about this girlfriend, explain to your mate that numbers are tight, and you'd love to see him there, but you can't quite squeeze the numbers to fit in the girlfriend too. And make sure that he's not the only one who's being treated like this!


If numbers aren't an issue, just do a +1 on the invite - then it's up to your mate who he brings.


Best of luck, and congratuations!
Reply:Well, it depends if you're stuck for spaces or anything...





He's not going to have too much of a great time alone is he? Especially at a wedding, which is about celebrating love!!





But, if you've got loads of people coming and simply cant fit someone else in, esp that you dont know too well, over someone you do, I say invite her to the evening reception...





I know as I have a huge family, that sort of thing will crop up for me, but, its your day, keep it about you and your fiance and dont worry too much!!





congratualtions!
Reply:you should invite him with an option that he can bring a date
Reply:Guests are usually invited as couples, so you'd want to invite your mate and his guest.
Reply:Well it really depends. For most of the guests are you inviting them, plus 1? Or just the specific individual? Because you could invite your friend, and on the invitation you mark it as "Mr. So and So, Plus Guest" and then it's up to him to decide if he brings her or not. If you are brought to a wedding as a guest it's pretty common you wouldn't know anyone, and you are there just as a date. But if you are not inviting people with dates, then I wouldn't feel bad just because your friend has this girlfriend. You are not obligated to invite her by any means.
Reply:it depends on how comfy your are with the decison. There is no right or wrong in this matter.
Reply:definitely go for the 'plus guest' - he'll really appreciate this and who knows...if they'll ever get as far as walking down the aisle they won't think twice about inviting you!!! Congratulations! x
Reply:Yes, it's polite and most people assume they are getting a date, especially if they are a close friend.
Reply:Invite him and plus one, and see who he wants to bring
Reply:i recon no... weddings are from family and close friends...if you don't no this person, don't invite her.
Reply:You should invite her. Generally it would be '..and guest'. Are your other mates bringing partners? Speak to your mate and see how serious they are. He might be happy to go alone if she hasn't been around long.
Reply:Depends. It doesn't matter how well you know her. The questions you should ask are you letting people bring guests? Or is it a small wedding where only a few close friends and family will be in attendance?





If you're allowing people to bring dates, then you should include your mate plus a guest in his invite. If you are having the small wedding then only invite him.





If you allow others to bring dates, but do not allow your mate to bring his, then he and his gf may feel slighted and hurt.
Reply:If its a matter of how many people you want to invite to your wedding, then you don't have to invite his girlfriend, if it's only because you haven't gotten a chance to know her better, than invite your mate and just put on his invite plus one guest. This way your mate has someone to enjoy your wedding with and doesn't feel lost within the crowd of your family and other friends. hope this helped.
Reply:Yes, you have to invite her. Everyone has a right to bring a guest. I added 'plus guest' to all of my single friends invitations.


Plus if you don't invite her it's like you are saying she's not important to you or your friend. I know it's a pain paying for people who you don't really know but sometimes you just have to suck these things up.


Have a lovely wedding x
Reply:I think the right thing to do is to invite her...just etiquette.
Reply:Its your decision .. but i think you should :)
Reply:I would invited them both,or invite him and tell him he is more than welcome to bring his girlfriend.
Reply:It depends how long they have been together? If it is a matter of mere days/ weeks then possibly not but if they are serious about each other then definitely! If she wasnt invited it might make her feel bad - its a nice way to introduce her into yr circle and doesnt put yr mate in an awkward position. Try not to stress about it, just invite her, im sure u have many other things to worry about for the big day anyway!!
Reply:you should invite all of them
Reply:A good rule of thumb is to invite your guest's significant other if they've been together for a year or more. If they've only been together for a few months, there's no need to invite her.
Reply:you wellcome