Should i invite all my relatives to my wedding?

May fiance and i have thought that we should only invite between 100 and 120 people to our wedding. We want a more personal wedding, so we're only wanting to invite close family and friends.


I have a large extended family, and i don't know them and i don't really get along with them. If we don't invite them, i know they will get offended by not being invited.





Should we invite them, even though i don't really want them to attend just to keep them happy or do what we want to do?
Should i invite all my relatives to my wedding?
My daughter is cutting hers off at 1st cousins, adults only. That means my cousins, my wifes aunts, etc... will not be invited.





Her fiance is in total accord with this and any one who complained just reinforces the sound reasoning behind it. They wouldn't be happy, no matter what she does.
Reply:If you don't know them or don't get along with them, I highly doubt they would be offended. I have a very large extended family as well, and most of them I see once a year if even, and they weren't invited to the wedding. There were no hard feelings and they told me that they were happy for me with lots of smiles.





Just because you are getting married doesn't mean that every last person on your family tree needs to be invited. Make a guest list with immediate family and close friends first, people that you really do want there. After that, see how much room you have to move with and possibly invite some of the extended family that you are closer with.





If you don't know these family members, nor get along with them, chances are they won't even hear about marriage until its much later, or they would RSVP with a "no" anyways.
Reply:if you do not know them..how is it you do not get along? anyway.. invite them.. chances are...they will not come anyway. if what you say is true
Reply:you know what..





sometimes you can't always do what other people want you to do..





weddings are expensive.. I say invite any relatives you feel might be offeneded to the reception only
Reply:Good heavens--stop worrying. This is to be your wedding. And if you don't like them or see them ever, anyway, when would you hear from them that they were offended. Keep it small. And it might be nice to simply send out wedding announcements after the deed is done. Everyone knows how expensive weddings are, and if the extended family gets their nose out of joint, then so be it. Who cares anyway. It would soon be forgotten. However, you will miss out on the numerous shower and wedding gifts that would surely have been given. Happy life together.
Reply:I just got married last August and we decided to just invite close friends and family. It turned out to be the right choice. You have to keep in mind that this is your wedding and you should make sure you are doing it the way you want. Have a personal wedding and if you are still worried about those extended family members send them a wedding announcement after the wedding. They don't have to be expensive either. I just went to my local photo developer and made one of our wedding pictures into a card and put the location, time, date and new last name in the card. I also would put a little note or caption having to with the wedding. I hope this helps!
Reply:If you don't get along with them, why would you care if they are offended.





Invite the ones you LIKE! lol The more people you have, the more expensive your wedding and reception bill will be.





What's more important: YOU being happy or THEM being happy?





Stick to your original numbers...





Good luck!
Reply:i am not going to invite my whole family, my fiance and i r having a low key wedding in a park we r only inviting 100 ppl immediate family and close friends
Reply:Do not invite them! You and your fiance have the wedding you want without the pressure of having more guests than you want or can afford. What you can do though is after the wedding have a get together with everyone at your new home or your or his parents home to celebrate your union. Keep it simple with drinks and appetizers. That will keep any feelings from being hurt and they will be included in the celebration of your wedding.
Reply:i know u'd love to invite everyone, but thats not possible. my hubby %26amp; i wanted people at our wedding that would remember us 3yrs down the line, people who actually mean somethign to us. we decided om a beach breakfast buffet for 30 people! only immediate family %26amp; never regretted it
Reply:I personally wouldn't bother about family you are not close to, or rarely see. Those particular relations should understand that you're trying to restrict numbers and hopefully won't mind that you don't invite them.





I have four cousins in this country that I shall not be bothering to invite to my own wedding since we have never been close and two of them live quite far away anyway.