I dont go to drinking partys. lots of my friends do but they never invite. wat should i do im pretty shy?

I wonder how old you are? When my oldest daughter started high school all of a sudden she seemed to have no more friends, they had all started drinking and she didn't want to go with them when they did. She had a touch Freshman year but midway through her Sophomore year she fell in with a great group and they have become lifelong friends, the whole group. She is now 23 and everything turned out just fine. She stayed true to herself. Of course they have great fun going to the bars now.


Just stick with your way and the rest will fall into place.


Be friendly, look people in the eye and smile. You'll find friends that you fit with and they you.
I dont go to drinking partys. lots of my friends do but they never invite. wat should i do im pretty shy?
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So in other words you want to look "cool and all that..." be very carefull, if you knew what went on in those drinking partys you will be glad that you never went.





Ask yourself, do you really want to be there?





whatever you decide, remember "YOU" only made the choice.





Ruby.
Reply:Good for you. You should not have to be tempted by going to drinking parties.





Do you have some friends who don't drink? What do they do? Going to the movies is cheaper than drinking parties anyway (if you skip the popcorn).





You don't mention your age. If you are in college or HS, you can join a club or group that encourages activities that are non-drinking and you could get a couple new friends.
Reply:If you do not drink and you stll want to hang with these people offer to be there driver. Take your own car so that at the end of the party they can not argue with you or say I changed my mind I am not drunk I will drive. All drunks think they are not drunk.
Reply:Crash the parties, just bring plenty of beer and they will let you right in. but make sure that you have a little stash of your own so you won't run out. maybe stash a cooler in the bushes and when the party drinks are gone you can secretly slip out in the back yard and retrieve it


You won't be shy for long.
Reply:why are shy at the first place? be yourself
Reply:just be herself. I am sure you are not shy all the time. I am sure that you also have a few close friends. i would go with a good friend. If you don't drink you can just have juice that's fine. or maybe try to bring non alcoholic drinks. like virgin pina colada's or daquiri's. that will be a hit.
Reply:maybe the reason they don't invite you is because you don't drink? are you saying you want to get invited? then why don't you arrange for your and your close friends to drink by your place. get a small bottle of scotch or rum of vodka and get a bottle of coke or sprite. if they doin't invite you then incite them! if you're a first time drinker, then this is the best idea so that if you DO get druink, at least you know you'll be with your close friends and that you're a home.





if you don't wanna do that then the next time they tell you how it was in the last drinking party that they went to, ask them how it was and that you're very curious on what happens then maybe they'll ask you to tag along to their next one!
Reply:well to answer your question if your friends dont invite. thats sad. but thats good that you want to do your own. ok. first make sure that when you invite your house is really decorated and clean. then for drinking i would select a good wine or a good margarita drink. if you have a blender, its best to make your own. for the glasses, use nice clean ones and have lemons around make sure that the glasses have salt around the edge for an extra taste. and leave the rest to conversation starters.
Reply:If you aren't invited, nothing you can do. If you aren't 21, be glad you aren't invited. You'd get in trouble sooner or later. Make some more respectable friends. Get involved with church activities, you'll meet lots of decent people there who will draw you out.


Getting over shyness is done in baby steps. Make it a point today to look one person in the eye and smile. Once you're comfortable with that, try saying "Hi!" to people you encounter. The more you do it, the easier it gets.


Find activities you like. Take a craft class, join a book club, whatever interests you. You don't have to feel awkward then, cause you'll have at least one thing in common with all the people there, so you'll have something to talk about! Good luck!
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