I can only afford to have 10 kids at my daughter's B day party so I can't invite all the kids from her class

Is this rude? Should I invite some of them or none at all?
I can only afford to have 10 kids at my daughter's B day party so I can't invite all the kids from her class
i would only invite her friends not everyone from her class.


experts recommend inviting one kid for every year of your child's age, plus one. so if they are turning 5 then invite 6 kids.





don't invite them all if you can't afford it, no sense going into debt over it.
Reply:No, it's not rude. Just invite her closest friends, and have a great at-home party! That's what kids like best.
Reply:I don't think it's rude. There's no sense in spending money you don't have just so feelings don't get hurt. That's a part of life. Is it possible to invite all the girls in your daughter's class? That would be the easiest and happiest medium. If not, just help your daughter pick out the 10 she'd like to invite. Be sure to mail the invitations or call the parents rather than let your daughter pass out the invitations in class. Many schools (including my own), have policies in place that don't allow you to pass out invitations at school if they're not going to every kid in the class.
Reply:you invite the friends not the class.It is not rude it is life
Reply:No not at all.


I have never invited the whole class.


Just have her pick who are her closest friends.


I would not send the invitations in class though, mail them or hand them after school so feelings don't get hurt.
Reply:I would recommend calling and inviting them or mailing invitations to their homes rather than giving them out at school. I would also recommend making it a "girls only" party, which will cut down on half of the kids that may feel left out. How old are the kids? If they are at the right age, you could make it a top secret party and ask that they not tell the other children, but this is very risky and could come off as even more rude. It might be best to just not make a big deal out of it, as if it is just a small get-together, then no one will be offended that they were not invited. But I do think that it is cheating your daughter out of a special birthday if she doesn't get to invite any of her friends, so I wouldn't care who I offended, I would invite at least some of them.
Reply:i have the same problem. what i do is let my daughter choose who she wants and get her to hand them out to them. either that or just say its an all girls party and just invite girls. this is probably the better option
Reply:Invite her closes friends. Its not rude at all. You only have enough to accommodate the ten from her class then so be it. I think it would be more rude if the parents of the non-invited asked you why their child was not invited. Come on think about your child's happiness.
Reply:Just ask her who the friends are that she most wants to have at her party (10 or less) and let that be the list. I've seen posters on other boards asking why in the heck their kids keep getting invited to other kids birthday parties when they don't even know them. And if it were me, I'd only want my friends at my party and not every kid I have to go see all day at school.





No, it's not rude at all. It would be rude of someone to feel entitled to an invitation to a party.
Reply:i agree with the first answer. too many kids will make it way too chaotic also and just remember, she'll hopefully have alot more. in ten years the ones not invited will probably have forgotten the "slight"
Reply:No it is not rude. I would put a number and tell your daughter she can only invite this many friends from her class. Think of any relatives of child's age and take away them from 10. The teacher would most likely even drop the invitations in the childrens bookbags indiscreetly so no ones feelings get hurt if they do not receive an invite. It is not rude. There is no rule saying you have to invite the whole class.
Reply:not at all. just dont hand out the invitations in front of all the kids. let her invite just her best friends. she will probably have more fun that way anyway.
Reply:Why not just invite her close friends? That'll be more enjoyable for her anyway, than having to entertain practically the whole class.
Reply:You should have her pick her closest friends. Don't say she HAS to pick ten, but rather give her the limit of ten. Some kids would be happy with only having 4 or 5 friends over so don't pressure her anything she doesn't want to, and tell her that decision is completely up to her.
Reply:It is VERY rude as well as tacky to send invitation to a party to school. If she wants to invite SOME of the children in her class you need to get their home addresses and SEND the invitations via the mail system. How do you think YOUR daughter would feel if every other kid in her class got a party invitation and she didn't? If you can't invite ALL of the children in the class then invite the ones you can OUTSIDE of school.
Reply:I'd invite her closest friends and maybe have a little party at school if ok with class teacher. Eg take in cupcakes etc and get them to bring a plate of food
Reply:If you can't, you can't. Do not have your daughter pass the invitations out in class.
Reply:My son only allows his daughters to invite 3 from their class.


Three is plenty and it's NOT being rude!
Reply:Invite just the girls as long as it's not over 10, you don't want to invite all but one or two girls, that would be awful. So if you can't divide it out that way, I would not invite any of them, and just stick to cousins and friends from other activities. Kids usually don't understand the whole 'afford' thing and will take it personally no matter what. If you divide it out by gender, it's much easier for them to understand.
Reply:It would not be rude at all. Let her pick the kids to be invited. However, it would be rude and insensitive to have her give out the invitations at school. Some teachers give out a contact list at the beginning of the year. If you do not have one ask the teacher if there is any way you could get the information. If you made it a girls only party maybe that would cut it down to a manageable number.
Reply:don't send out any invitations at school. have your daughter pick 2 friends and have a sleep over. no party is worth going broke for!
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