I am getting married but cant invite everyone?

I am getting married pretty soon in georgia and I moved from NY to live in georgia about two years ago. I am having wedding of about 100 people and there are some friends that I have grown up with but havent spoken to that much since I ws in georgia and I don't think that I will invite them to the wedding. Is there any card I can buy or something that I can purchase that says like "I am sorry for not inviting you to my wedding"? Or at least something else that resembles or bring out that same idea? Thanks
I am getting married but cant invite everyone?
If you send out formal announcements, the recipients will cynically imagine that you are "fishing" for a gift. Since the holiday season is so close, why don't you wait until you send these folks a holiday card. Add a short handwritten note, something like "Mom and Dad are fine and send their regards. Fred and I married in November. The cat had kittens. Georgia is wonderful, but I miss you."





That way you let them know you got married, but avoid sounding like (1) "I got married; whatcha gonna gimme?" or (2) "I had a big party and didn't invite YOU -- nyah, nyah, nyah!"
Reply:ya totally.... i wouldn't say sorry we couldn't invite you but something more to the effect of..... we just got married with the date, location, who gave the bride away and maybe where you will honeymoon and where you will eventually reside and what you both do (career wise).... that is a really good idea.... my husband i had had a very small wedding with just close friends and family about the same size of yours so there where alot of people we just couldn't invite... you can even buy the kits at Michaels and then just print them up on your computer... most people will understand and appreciate the fact you thought about them although you couldn't extend the actual invite
Reply:I wouldn't send a card saying that, it's almost like rubbing their nose in it, I am sure that people understand that there has to be some limit on the number of people attending, if you have not spoken to them that much for a couple of years then they would probably not expect an invite really. Don't feel bad, you only have a certain budget and certain space at your venue.
Reply:What we are doing is we have told all our friend (the ones we dont see much) that we are inviting them to our ceremony so they can see both h2b and myself and be their as we say our vowls and all of that. But have said due to money resons they was unable to attend the reception. We are now going to hold a party which will be the next weekend after we get back from our honeymoon to be with them and again family. Showing the photos of both the wedding and the honeymoon.





Also most of mine want to come to the hens night but are not attending the reception so thats cool they still get to be involved
Reply:I wouldn't send an 'I'm sorry" at all. If you haven't talked to them since childhood then I wouldn't even invite them.


If you really want to show them something, I say wait until after the wedding, send out a picture of you guys on your wedding day with an announcement saying you were married. I have a friend who did this and it was really nice since she didn't invite a lot of people to her wedding.
Reply:Don't send an apology card. That would just seem awkward. I had the same problem - last mo. we had 80 ppl to ours.





I would simply tell them or announce it after the fact is better, or even now. Then sound real casual and just say, "Yeah, we're just having a small wedding."





They can still send you their wishes and a gift if they want. I did that, and no one was offended. Ppl understand, and the wedding IS ALL ABOUT YOU, NOT ANYONE ELSE! ;)





Happy wedding!!!!!!





PS: Have you checked out www.theknot.com ? Great wedding planning tools and etiquette tips.
Reply:Just invite the family. If the friends ask, tell them that you could only have family and that you are sorry. There is no reason to send a letter explaining your actions.